About Michael Fulmer

I never planned to do this.

Back in 2008, I watched another marriage in my family collapse. The third out of five. I remember thinking: again? It blew my mind. So I did what I always do when something bothers me — I went deep on it.

I started researching infidelity, betrayal, and what actually causes relationships to fall apart. Not the surface stuff. The real drivers. Why people do what they do. What makes someone stay. What makes someone leave. What brings them back.

That obsession didn't stop. It just kept going.

How this became my work

A couple of years later, two close friends went through a brutal breakup. I watched from the sidelines, thinking: these two could actually figure this out if they knew what they were doing.

So I looked into it. Turned out I was right.

That experience planted the seed for what became Undo A Breakup, which I launched in 2011. It was never meant to be a business. It was meant to be useful. But it grew. And it kept growing.

Thousands of clients. Hundreds of thousands of readers. A newsletter with over 10,000 subscribers. Courses with over a thousand members. And now, the UNFAZED program — my most complete work to date.

For a good while I was doing all of this alongside a day job. Juggling clients in the evenings, writing on weekends. Eventually I burned out and had to choose. I chose this.

What I actually believe

I'm not interested in tricks. Not because I'm above them — but because they don't work. Not properly. Not in ways that last.

What I've found, through years of watching real people navigate real heartbreak, is that the thing most people are missing isn't a better script or a smarter tactic. It's dignity. A sense of self that stays intact under pressure.

When you have that — when you genuinely have that — everything else follows more naturally than you'd expect.

That's the core of everything I teach. I call it the Pride Principle. And it runs through all of my work.

Credentials, for those who want them

I'm trained in Gottman Method Couples Therapy (Level 1 and Level 2) — one of the most rigorously researched approaches to understanding what makes relationships work and what breaks them. That training grounds the practical experience I've built up over 15+ years working with clients one-on-one.

I've been a requested guest on relationship podcasts, and was approached to appear in a UK TV documentary on "breakup specialists." I'm based in England, where I run what I'd describe as a quiet, boutique coaching practice — working with a small number of clients at any given time, and writing for a much larger audience online.

A note on why I keep things private

I'm a private person. I don't do videos. I don't post selfies. I've never asked anyone to follow me on social media or join a Facebook group.

I know that's unusual. We live in a world that equates visibility with credibility. But I've always believed the work should speak louder than the personal brand. The results my clients get are the best argument I have.

And if you've spent any time on this site or at undoabreakup.com, you'll know there's no shortage of that.

Thanks for reading.

In your corner,
Michael Fulmer