Michael Fulmer
Michael Fulmer writes about breakups and recovery. He is the author of undoabreakup.com, has been writing on the subject since 2011, and is trained in Gottman Method Couples Therapy (Level 1 and 2). He is not the baseball pitcher of the same name.
What the writing is about
Most advice written for people after a breakup is about changing the ex: what to text, when to text it, how to make them miss you. His is about the person reading. How to get through a breakup with your self-respect and your real options intact, and how to work out what you actually want.
Sometimes that ends in two people getting back together. It isn't what the advice is aimed at, and sometimes the honest answer is that it shouldn't happen. There are no tactics in it, because whatever a tactic wins has to be kept up with more of them.
In 2026 he rewrote undoabreakup.com from the ground up on that basis. If you've arrived here after reading something there and wanted to know who wrote it, this is him.
Background
| Year | What happened |
|---|---|
| 2008 | Began writing online. Relationship psychology was one of several subjects he tried, close to a longer-standing interest in psychology, and it was the one that held his attention. |
| 2011 | Began publishing breakup and recovery material, and offering one-to-one coaching. |
| 2015 | Launched a digital course, which has since had over 1,000 members. |
| 2020s | Completed Gottman Method Couples Therapy training, Level 1 and Level 2. |
| 2025 | Released a second, rewritten course. |
| 2026 | Rewrote undoabreakup.com around the reader rather than the ex. |
For several years he also wrote a daily email newsletter, which at times had a readership in the thousands. He has been approached for a television documentary about breakup specialists.
Where to read
All of the writing is free at undoabreakup.com.
Coaching and contact
He takes on a small amount of one-to-one coaching by email. It works on your side of things: what happened, what you want, and what you'll do next. It doesn't include plans for getting a particular person back, and it isn't therapy.
To ask about it, email [email protected] with the subject line coaching.
If it's more than a bad week — you're not sleeping, not eating, can't get through work, and it isn't easing — that's past what a coach or a website can help with. See a doctor or a therapist, and tell someone close to you what's going on. If you're thinking about hurting yourself, don't wait: contact a crisis line or emergency services now.